Growing up conflict
was most present as I was being a typical attitude filled teenage girl in high
school. After our disputes, my mother and I would usually go our separate ways
in order to cool off and avoid an even bigger argument. Around this time, I was
quite good at avoiding conflict with my mom. On occasion there was shouting when
our attempts at differentiation wouldn’t go as planned. As I grew older I learned
to control the differentiation process. I was slowly able to see my mother’s
side of every argument and our communication as well as our relationship grew
stronger. Once I matured, conflict within my family was seldom, but when my
family realizes that a conflict is forming, we are able to differentiate our positions
clearly and fairly quickly. With that being said, our conflicts were usually
resolved through compromises and humor. When we would work out compromises, we would
make sure that the rules to the compromise were clear so that there would be no
miscommunication or possibility of regression. Often we laugh at ourselves and
each other rather than get increasingly agitated, which could potentially add
fuel to the fire. Along with that, we bring up past situations that once had us
all frustrated for a trivial reason and we laugh at them. We even come up with
nicknames when someone does something “wrong” and gets into a conflict with our
mom as a way to tease that person about what they did. When we turn our
differences into something to laugh about, it shows that we have moved past it
and that is something that I really enjoy about my family.
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