Sunday, February 28, 2016

Ariya Fuentes: Conflict Management within a family


Growing up conflict was most present as I was being a typical attitude filled teenage girl in high school. After our disputes, my mother and I would usually go our separate ways in order to cool off and avoid an even bigger argument. Around this time, I was quite good at avoiding conflict with my mom. On occasion there was shouting when our attempts at differentiation wouldn’t go as planned. As I grew older I learned to control the differentiation process. I was slowly able to see my mother’s side of every argument and our communication as well as our relationship grew stronger. Once I matured, conflict within my family was seldom, but when my family realizes that a conflict is forming, we are able to differentiate our positions clearly and fairly quickly. With that being said, our conflicts were usually resolved through compromises and humor. When we would work out compromises, we would make sure that the rules to the compromise were clear so that there would be no miscommunication or possibility of regression. Often we laugh at ourselves and each other rather than get increasingly agitated, which could potentially add fuel to the fire. Along with that, we bring up past situations that once had us all frustrated for a trivial reason and we laugh at them. We even come up with nicknames when someone does something “wrong” and gets into a conflict with our mom as a way to tease that person about what they did. When we turn our differences into something to laugh about, it shows that we have moved past it and that is something that I really enjoy about my family.

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