Blog #3:
My family and I rarely have
conflict, I have lucked out in having very wonderful and supportive parents,
but like most families we have had our ups and downs. I think how we handled our
family conflicts truly shows our family dynamic, but there has been times we
may have shown our true colors. It seemed as though as I got older and started
working, along with my parents working in more demanding and stressful roles,
that is what was causing our conflicts. My dad is one to bring his work issues
home, and not be able to let go of stress or frustration very easy. My mom is
one to bottle her work frustrations up until something at home makes her boil
over, in which then it is a combination of the two. I personally love to talk
out my work place frustrations with my parents, but as I begin to vent I get
more worked up about the work issue than I had been in the actual situation.
These three different ways of handling work conflict in our home, then trickles
down and causes family conflict as well. Especially in our different roles in our
family, it is only the three of us so my mom stands as the stoic leader, my dad
the goofy fun loving role, and me the understanding and calm family member. When
one of us is experiencing conflict in work, and we bring it home and cause
conflict at home it causes a rift in roles. In the article, “Differences in the Outcomes of Work and
Family Conflict Between Family- and Nonfamily Businesses: An Examination of
Business Founders”, it discussed the importance of these roles in conflict
stating, “there will be challenges in meeting unmet role expectations and
responsibilities, which result in interrole conflict.” For example, my family
and I planned a nice family dinner, my dad came home that day from work fuming
with conflict with his boss. He could not shake that conflict, and that caused
my mom and I to have conflict with him for not being able to shake off his
anger and enjoy our plans. He took on a new role from his usual goofy self, and
we were not happy with it. This then transitions into how we are going to solve
our family conflict caused by work conflict. The book mentions, how to evaluate
some conflict is the solutions that come afterwards, and luckily after about 20
minutes of a fit, my parents and I were able to settle the work inspired family
conflict and have a lovely family night out.
Citation:
Carr, J.C, & Hmeileski, K.M. (2015).
Differences in the Outcomes of Work and Family Conflict Between Family- and
Nonfamily Businesses: An Examination of Business Founders. Entrepreneurship: Theory & Practice, 39(6), 1413-1432. Doi:10.1111/etap.12174
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