Conflict Styles in When Harry Met Sally
by: Tyler Roden
When Harry Met Sally is a great romantic comedy starring
Billy Crystal and Meg Ryan about two friends who keep running into each other
and eventually fall in love. The conflict management style that can be
observed in this movie is the avoiding style. Dale Eilerman defined avoidance
as “when a person knows there is a conflict but decides not to deal with it by
ignoring, sidestepping, being non-committal or withdrawing from the issue or
interaction.” In the movie when the characters, Harry and Sally, realize that
they are attracted to each other they decide to avoid the subject and date other people instead of acting on their attraction. This is the protecting style of avoiding
since both parties do whatever they can to avoid the issue. Later in the movie
Harry and Sally have sex and both agree it was a mistake rather than talk it
out. Eventually the two have too much pent up aggression about the situation
and have a huge argument at a wedding. This is an example of how
using the avoiding style to manage conflict can make the issues fester and
result in destructive consequences. The couple starts to avoid having any
interaction with each other. Their friends try to convince them of the mistakes
they’ve made but Harry and Sally refuse to listen. At a New Year’s Eve party
Harry tells Sally that he loves her and the two kiss and reconcile. If the
couple had chosen a different conflict management style from the beginning they might have been together a lot longer.
Work Cited:
Eilerman, Dale. "The Use and Misuse of an Avoiding Style in Conflict Management." Mediate. Resourceful Internet Solutions, Inc., September 2006. Web. 07 March 2016.
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